Being an effective leader requires that we become someone others want to follow, developing and improving ourselves such that we become someone that others admire and want to follow, not because of the position we hold, but because of the person we are.
According to Travis Bradberry & Jean Greaves, the authors of Emotional Intelligence 2.0, they found that across over 100,000 senior executives (including 1,000 CEOs), managers, and line employees, the people in organizations that have the lowest EQ are those in the C-suite.
If we have developed the wiring for a certain orientation, or if we rely upon one side of our prefrontal cortex, does that mean that we are stuck? No! We can rewire our brains to navigate life more effectively and become more of someone others want to follow.
What is sad is that dysfunctional leaders are of the mindset that they are doing their best. They don’t realize that their largely subconscious desires cause them to be dysfunctional in their decision making and actions.
If you do not have healthy mindsets, those around you know it, and they respond just as much to your mindsets as they do your behaviors. Stated differently, those you lead care more about who you are than what you do.
The reality is that If we want to improve ourselves, our influence, and our effectiveness, that means that we need to change the lenses that we are using the view the world… We need to change our mindsets.